I’ve try to figure things up with my family meaning with my siblings. I’m the oldest of six and three of them lives a few blocks from my home.
I’ve been taking care of my dad since 2012. My husband and my kids support my decision with one simple condition I will get help from my three siblings.
When I brought my dad into my home, they were willing to help at least with his showers. They would take turns also they didn’t want to come on the weekends and I agree.
Then one by one they begin to complain. They complain about back pains, pinch nerves in their necks, or pain in their bodies. And one day they stop coming. For the past three years I’ve been taking care of my dad with the help from my husband.
My siblings come to visit on special occasions like his birthday or holidays no longer than 30 minutes. On Father’s Day two of them came with a gift and took a few pictures. They posted the picture in social media with a comment “happy day with dad”. Someone made a comment under the picture “how lucky they are and they have won a piece of heaven for taking care of him”.
I cringe every time I read the comment or see the picture. My dad doesn’t know what’s happening and I try not to show my emotions. I feel sad and depressed when something like this continue to happen.
As now, my responsibility is to take care of him and grateful for having my husband helping me. The hospital close from my home has a program call “Home Health Care” and they will be coming for a couple of months. We are lucky it will be covered by his Medicare. However, I don’t know how long it’s going to last.
I love my family and I always do; however, I feel so disconnected. I don’t want this incident to shadow the happiness of having my dad in my home. They are missing the opportunity to spend time with our dad.
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I love this quote. This is the way I feel today is my birthday. Oh my God, I turn 57 and I never thought I would survive. When I was 48 and diagnosed with breast cancer I felt I would die. I was afraid for my kids accomplish and my husband. My mother passed away at the young age of 48. Today looking in the mirror, I feel grateful for my life. I’m cancer free and enjoying my babies. My mother didn’t have the chance to meet and adore her 13 grandkids and 14 great grandkids.
My plans for today a trip to the Zoo and have a fantastic time with my four grandkids. I’m sure we will have fun. My husband would be taking me to dinner and we picked Thai food.
I am grateful for having a wonderful life and I hope to keep it this way.
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Happy birthday, to me. Today I’m 54 and happily for another year full of blessings. Maybe I’m feeling a little bit old, but I can say that hearing my granddaughters in the morning with a simple “happy birthday grandma” and “I love you” is the best gift I can get. My husband got me my two favorite books of all time “Maria” by Jorge Isaac and”La Casa de Bernarda Alba” by Federico Garcia Lorca. I’m thrilled.
My oldest son who is 29 shows up with my favorite wine. Then, my daughter who is 27 brings a basket full of makeup and my youngest who is 22 with a beautiful plant. They have been spoiling me like crazy. What more I can ask. My husband has planned to cook my favorite meal. My grandkids already have the music on. I think their dancing the Gangnam style. I can’t forget the chocolate cake, blowing my candles, and making my wish.
Thank you to my family and friends who are always there for me. This day has started with happiness and blessings. I love you.
I’m grateful for another year.